Sober dating. Done right.
Dating apps run on alcohol.Yours doesn’t have to.
SoberHearted is a dating community for people who don’t drink or use — built by a founder with 21 years in recovery, not a corporation guessing at what you need.
community
in recovery
respectful
connections
Deeper Connections
a Brighter Tomorrow ♡
Why this exists
A different kind of
dating community.
I’ve been sober for 21 years and I’ve sponsored men in recovery for most of them. Every dating app I’ve ever seen treats not drinking like a dietary restriction. We treat it like what it is — the best decision you ever made, and the first thing you and your person will have in common.
This is not an alcohol-only club: whether your story is booze, drugs, or the whole menu, clean is clean and you’re home here. Your privacy is engineered in: no real name required, photos stay private until you choose otherwise, and your card statement will never mention sobriety.
Be first through the door
The founding-member
waitlist is open.
No spam, no sharing your address, and nothing in your inbox that announces your business to anyone else.
Guides
Practical advice for sober dating.
Dating basicsSober Dating in 2026: How to Date When You Don't Drink
A practical guide to dating clean and sober — alcohol, drugs, or both — from a founder with 21 years in recovery. Where to meet people, what to say, and why the apps make it harder than it needs to be.
First dates30 Sober First Date Ideas That Aren't 'Let's Grab Coffee'
Thirty alcohol-free first date ideas that actually build connection — daytime, evening, cheap, and splurge options, tested against two decades of sober living.
RelationshipsDating in Early Recovery: The Honest Version
What sponsors actually say about dating in your first year of sobriety — the reasoning behind the one-year suggestion, the risks worth respecting, and how to know when you're ready.