Community Guidelines

Treat people the way you’d want to be treated on a hard day.

That’s the whole thing. The rest is detail.

Who this is for

Adults, 18 and over, who are sober from alcohol and/or drugs, or who are sober-curious and respect that sobriety is the norm here. Clean is clean: we don’t ask what you used, how long it took, or how many tries. We don’t rank recoveries.

What we ask

Be who you say you are. Your own recent photos, your real age, your actual intentions. One account per person.
Go gently with newcomers. If someone has under a year, assume they are doing something hard. Friendship first is always a fine answer. Pursuing newcomers because they are vulnerable, the “13th step”, gets you removed.
No means no, and “not yet” means not yet. About meeting, about moving off the app, about anything. Pressure is a safety issue here, not a style.
Keep it clean, literally. No photos with alcohol or drugs, no glamorizing use, no “just one won’t hurt”, no selling, no sourcing.
Respect every path. 12-step, SMART, Dharma, faith, therapy, medication-assisted treatment, your own way. Nobody’s program is up for debate here.
Respect every person. No harassment, hate, or slurs about gender, sexuality, race, faith, body, disability, or recovery. We ask how people identify; we don’t argue with their answer.
No sexual content unasked for. No explicit photos, no explicit messages unless clearly invited.
Nothing commercial. No selling, recruiting, promoting, fundraising, or asking for money. No links to sell anything.
Keep other people’s anonymity. What you learn about someone’s recovery here stays here. Don’t screenshot profiles or messages to share.
No kids. No one under 18 may use SoberHearted, and no photos of children on profiles, including your own.

What happens when guidelines are broken

Every report is read by a person within 24 hours. Depending on what we find, we may warn, pause, or permanently remove an account. Two independent reports hide a profile automatically until review. We don’t tell the reported person who reported them. If you believe we got it wrong, write to hello@soberhearted.com and a person will look again.

What we promise back

We never sell or share your data. Ever.
Your recovery details are visible only to whom you choose.
Your photos are blurred to non-matches unless you decide otherwise.
Nothing we send you reveals sobriety in a subject line.
You can delete your account yourself, instantly, any time.